Ten Date Night Ideas

date night ideas

Date nights have been few and far between at my house. My goal for 2015 is to go on a date night once a month. I even scheduled our first date night for this week. There are so many competing priorities in my busy life that I have to schedule them in. So I thought I’d share a few ideas for date nights that may interest you too! Here they go:

  1. Wander in a book store. This idea is kinda selfish, as I love books and I love bookstores, but hey, I can share the love with my love!
  2. Hang out at Starbucks. Caffeine and love, a perfect combination.
  3. Sit on a park bench and chit chat. This is completely free of any temptations to purchase anything (unlike the Starbucks and book store idea!)
  4. Rent a Redbox movie. Watch it after the kids are in bed for guaranteed alone time.
  5. Go to a real movie. An alternative to being in the same building as your children.
  6. Browse a local farmer’s market. A fun way to learn about local vendors in your community.
  7. Walk on the beach. Enjoy the sun and sand together!
  8. Go out for ice cream. I love this one. (For obvious reasons.)
  9. Take a walk around your neighborhood or at a nearby nature trail. Walking together leads to lots of talking, and both are good for you!
  10. See a local play, opera, or musical. This is a very good way to try something new if most of your days have been pretty routine.

There you have it! My date night ideas. What are yours? 

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3 Chaos-Free Ways to Greet Your Man at Day’s End

 

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I don’t want to give my man scraps, but after a long day of caring for the kiddos, my brain is fuzzed out. It can be tough to give it that ol’ Susie Homemaker try. At six o’clock in the evening, the kids have caught a second wind of energy, and I’m simply trying to hot dog it till we put them to bed.

Like I said in last week’s post, I am not a Stepford wife.

But I am a wife on a mission: a mission to keep my marriage intact during these tenuous small children years. So while my husband won’t see me donned in a perfectly pressed A-line dress and heels at five o’clock in the evening, I want to be showered and dressed when the sun sets.

Okay, I’ll set my goals a little higher (just a little). Here are 3 chaos free ways to meet your man at the end of the day:

Number one: Take a shower and get dressed in normal clothes.

I have to mention this again because it really has to be done before the end of the day. Moms who work outside the home have it made in this department. Their employer requires they don’t show up at the office in their jammies or sweats. The rest of us wandering SAHMs have to remember to do this. There have been times when I haven’t gotten dressed  until well into the afternoon (or evening!) On those days, I felt slightly off and disoriented. So do yourself (and your mailman) a favor and clean yourself up before Noon please. (Thanks!)

Number two: Shove all the toy clutter blocking the entrance in a closet.

Notice, I didn’t say put the toys in perfectly labeled Ikea bins. Just make sure the entryway is clear of all the kid junk. A clear entryway will be like rolling out the red carpet for him. (Not really, but close enough.) First impressions are everything. As for the rest of the house well…don’t worry about that.

Number three: Burn a scented candle (especially if you haven’t had time to make dinner).

I do this all the time. I have had a lot of dinner fails recently. Buy one of those lovely scented Glade candles from Walmart or Target and light it up, baby! The simulated scent of Pumpkin Pie or Vanilla or whatever will make him believe (albeit, briefly) that you actually baked something from scratch.

What about you? How do you prepare for your man’s arrival at the end of the day?

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The Husband List

 

Husband List

You need a husband list.

Why? Because life will hand you anything if you let it. This is especially true for marriage. So you need a list.

Here’s my husband list, qualities which are important to me in a mate. Thankfully, my man meets all the criteria ;-)

He shares the same religious faith. I have friends in interfaith marriages and married friends who are don’t ascribe to any religious beliefs, but for me, having the same faith with my spouse is important. I need to talk freely with my spouse on faith issues, and so I don’t want to feel as if I am at odds with my spouse in this respect. Faith is a major part of who I am, and I want to be on a level playing field with my man.

He sees me. A husband shouldn’t hold limiting stereotypes about me. This can only limit and stifle. For example, I wouldn’t want to be married to someone who thinks that, because I am a woman, I should focus solely on raising children while completely disregarding my other interests. I believe in the importance of motherhood, but I am not “just a housewife” (as people have said to me). I have other interests that matter to me.

He’s responsible. Carrying a man can be burdensome. Period. Healthy boundaries in a marriage are so important to me. Yes, we are to help our husbands, but not to our personal damage/detriment. I’ve seen marriages with poor boundaries, and it hasn’t been pretty. A good husband will respect you as an individual not drain your spirit.

He provides good intellectual conversation. I enjoy debating with my husband on a lot on different issues in the world. He provides me with a different perspective which I may not have considered and vice versa. He offers me reasoned arguments on different issues, and I appreciate that.

He’s wise. Man, this one is SO important. There have been many instances when I could have made some really foolish choices at crucial points in my life. I feel blessed that the Lord has given me a spouse who has uncanny insight into my situations.

He’s trustworthy. I don’t want to second guess my spouse and wonder whether his word is true or not. I want the security in knowing that if my man said he’d deliver on his promise, that he’ll make it happen. He’s a man of his word.

He’s good looking. Yes, this is important to me, but personality plays a large role in attractiveness. If someone looked like Bruno Mars, but he was a jerk well…I’d pass.

That’s my list. What about you? What qualities do you find attractive in a/your husband?

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Three Ways to Date Your Husband All Over Again (Or the proper care and feeding of your goose)

Date Your Husband

 

Yes, you can date your husband again.

And I’m not referring to simply having a date night. I mean living as if y’all are a hot new item…because you are.

The great storyteller Aesop told a great fable called the Goose and the Golden Egg. It goes like this:

ONE day a countryman going to the nest of his Goose found there an egg all yellow and glittering. When he took it up it was as heavy as lead and he was going to throw it away, because he thought a trick had been played upon him. But he took it home on second thoughts, and soon found to his delight that it was an egg of pure gold. Every morning the same thing occurred, and he soon became rich by selling his eggs. As he grew rich he grew greedy; and thinking to get at once all the gold the Goose could give, he killed it and opened it only to find,—nothing.

(excerpt from Harvard Classics, retold by Joseph Jacobs, New York: PF Collier and Co, 1914)

In any relationship, especially marriage, those golden eggs represent the synergy and good will that exists between two people who are in tune with one another. To receive the “golden eggs” we have to make regular, positive deposits into the relationship. To be quite honest, I’ve had friendships where I’ve made withdrawals from the other person and haven’t deposited into the friendship. I’ve also had friendships where I allowed my emotional bank account to be drained. In both situations, the friendships didn’t last. However, the friendships that have lasted though the years have been the ones where we’ve made mutual deposits into each other.

The same goes for marriage. Consistent acts of kindness, open communication and honesty helps a marriage grow exponentially. Here are three tips to help you date your man all over again:

  1. Dress to impress. Dressing to impress is a challenge for me. (Which is why I talk about it so much!) Right now, I am nearing lunchtime, and I still in my sweats. (But I am writing and cleaning my house like a champ, lol) However, I will kick in into overdrive and actually look decent before my man comes come. Do you have any outfits reserved for special occasions? Try making today a “special occasion” and wear one of those lovely outfits.
  2. Laugh more. One of my favorite pastimes is telling jokes with my spouse. It’s easy to get caught up in the nitty gritty of life and forget to laugh, but like Proverbs says: “laughter does a good medicine!” I like romantic comedies so if we run out of jokes, we’ll rent a (PG-13) rom-com.
  3. Add in the element of surprise. Make an impromptu phone call in the middle of the day to say ‘I Love You.’ Or give a small gift that you think he’d appreciate.

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